No matter who you are, it’s inevitable that you will experience some type of issues in your marriage. You could be the kindest, most tolerant and patient person on the face of the planet, but you and your partner can still face issues. Even the healthiest and strongest relationships experience times where they feel lonely, stuck and like their love has run its course. It can be incredibly easy to let the stress of work, kids and family affect you. This is on top of external issues that may not be addressed, like differing family dynamics, mental health issues and unexpected life events.
The absolute worst signs that a relationship is in trouble have been identified by the Gottman Research Institute and described as The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse. The following four behaviors increase the odds of getting a divorce to 85%:
Criticism: Attacking your lover’s character
Defensiveness: Denying responsibility when you screw up.
Contempt: Insulting, abusive comments to your lover.
Stonewalling: Emotionally withdrawing and not listening to your lover.
Power and Control
Family and Household Responsibilities
How can counseling help?
Couples counseling gives partners the opportunity to improve communication, strengthen intimacy and deal effectively with conflict. It is important to be each other’s best friend. A strong foundation of friendship protects your relationship from potential future issues of disconnecting from each other, loneliness or isolation.
Joie de Vivre provides compassionate and personalized therapy for couples who want nothing more than to mend and heal their relationship, as well as help with overcoming past struggles and disappointments. With couples counseling, you and your partner will be able to identify present issues in your relationship and discover healthy, productive methods of communication and dealing with them in order to help your relationship flourish.